The other aspect of our language that I wanted to discuss occurs in the language we don’t often put a voice to…and that’s the language of our thoughts. More specifically, our thoughts directed at or to ourselves.
I am one of the guilty ones here (as are many others) when it comes to being a harsh critic of myself. At times this has helped me to improve in areas I’ve needed the criticism (and can’t get it from anyone but me), but most of the time it’s not necessary and brings me down further.
How much better would our lives be if we offered ourselves the same forgiveness we’re willing to offer to others? If a friend or loved one makes a mistake, we will forgive them and move on without holding on to that “infraction”. If we make a mistake or hurt a friend, they’ll do the same for us…but do we do that for ourselves? Holding on to this guilt is a heavy burden that we don’t need once we’ve moved past that issue with those we’ve hurt. We need to forgive ourselves, as well as truly accept forgiveness from others, and then move on!